Yes, I Actually WANT To Be Single

February 20, 2019 — I’ll admit it. I’ve gone on a couple dates since I’ve been in Orlando.

Dating is cool! In my case, I score a free outing and/or free food, and I get to meet new people.

On the flip side, I hate dating because I always get asked the same question over and over again. This special question is typically placed right after the, “How was your day, and what have you been up too?” conversation. After food has been ordered and movie tickets have been purchased, the next series of questions always starts with, “So, why don’t you have a boyfriend?”

Immediately my internal eyes roll because I already know what’s going to happen. “Well,” I start to answer, “I don’t have a boyfriend because I don’t want one.”

My response is almost always followed by a wrinkling of the forehead, or my personal favorite, the laugh along with the follow up question, “What do you mean you don’t want one?”

I mean exactly what I said! I don’t want a boyfriend! Why is it that men find that so difficult to believe that a 30-year-old woman is not sitting around dreaming and hoping and wishing to be in a relationship? Why does the fact that I’m not looking to be in a relationship automatically mean that I must be crazy or that something must be wrong with me?

Maybe I'm focused on my career. Maybe I don't want to put myself in a situation where I'd be urged to coordinate schedules with you, find time to spend with you, and share my space with you. Maybe, just maybe, this 30-year-old woman has dreams other than being someone's wife and mother. Maybe I actually like being single!

So fellas, stop assuming that all single women are miserable beings waiting for you to sweep them off their feet. In fact, some of us really are just tolerating you to pass the time, so humble yourself.

*crosses legs and files perfectly manicured nails.*